Are you ready for divorce?

There are two kinds of fools: those who can’t change their opinions and those who won’t.

Josh Billings

PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

Wait! Wait!

Don’t tell me that you are not married!

Don’t tell me that you love your spouse so much that you’ll never divorce her or him!

I am not talking about dissolving marriage.

I am talking about your readiness to listen, to think, be flexible, to part with your opinions if it makes sense.

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Several weeks ago a couple of friends visited us in Pocono Manor. We had a very nice time together and we discussed different topics. They mentioned that their grandson (who is a college graduate) had opinions about everything and became angry and rude if somebody had expressed a different opinion.

It did not surprise us. We hear very often that students and professors are against discussions in universities, that they simply vote against allowing people with different opinions to speak on campuses.

I remember with great love wonderful teachers who gave us…

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Quotes about simplicity

In character, in manner, in style, in all things, the supreme excellence is simplicity.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

Leonardo da Vinci

I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.

Lao Tzu

The art of art, the glory of expression and the sunshine of the light of letters, is simplicity.

Walt Whitman

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PAINTING by JF

PAINTING by JF

Courage and character

You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.

Epicurus

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.

Abraham Lincoln

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Woman of a strong sex drive (part 2)

Not long ago I published a post WOMAN OF A STRONG SEX DRIVE (PART 1).
It is about a Russian woman who became a muse and a lover of many talented people and after 1929 became known to the world as Gala Dali.
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I continued to research her biography. First of all, I wanted to know how Elena Ivanovna Diakonova became Gala. I found from RUSSIA: PAST AND PRESENT that her first husband poet Paul Eluard was inspired by her “ardour, decisiveness, resoluteness, and high culture”. “He nicknamed her Gala from the French word meaning “triumph, festival”.
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Now, in 1929 Eluard, Gala and their 11 years old daughter Cecile visited a Catalonian artist Salvador Dali at his place in Cadaqués. Some sources say that Gala and Salvador, who was 10 years younger, fell passionately in love with each other, that she was his lover, his muse, his only female model.
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Let’s consider some facts.
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In 1929 Salvador Dali was 25 years old. In DALI”S DEMON BRIDE John Richardson wrote: “Dali was …a virgin when they met, who feared female private parts, and in a very close relationship with the poet Federico Garcia Lorca”. The artist had already heard about Gala’s activities, “…but his first sight of her in a bathing suit, on the sacrosanct beach of his childhood, left him bewitched. Gala was the demonic dominatrix of his dreams.”
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On the other hand, Gala was 35 years old, married and had affairs with many men. Richardson writes: “… she was in the market for another celebrity husband. And in the 25-year-old Dali she found … someone who shared her passion for money, power, and notoriety, but also someone whose latest paintings, with their references to Freud and Sade and their meticulous, Vermeer-like finish, were destined to have an instant succes de scandale.”
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Gala divorced Paul Eluard and from 1929 was always with Salvador. In 1934 they married in a civil ceremony. In 1958 they remarried in a Catholic ceremony.
SALVADOR & GALA IN 1930. Courtesy of Dali museum.

SALVADOR & GALA IN 1930. Courtesy of Dali museum.

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From Wikipedia: “She was Dalí’s muse, directly inspiring and appearing in many of his works.
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In the early 1930s, Dalí started to sign his paintings with his and her name as “(i)t is mostly with your blood, Gala, that I paint my pictures”. He stated that Gala acted as his agent, and aided in redirecting his focus. …

Gala had a strong sex drive and throughout her life had numerous extramarital affairs (among them with her former husband Paul Eluard), which Dali encouraged, since he was a practitioner of candaulism. She had a fondness for young artists, and in her old age she often gave expensive gifts to those who associated with her.

In 1968, Dalí bought Gala her own separate castle in Púbol, Girona, where she would spend time every summer from 1971-1980. He also agreed not to visit there without getting advance permission from her in writing.

In her late seventies, Gala had a relationship and bond with millionaire multi-platinum rock singer Jeff Fenholt… Fenholt acted as a business representative for the Dalis in America.”

Gala died in Port Lligat in 1982, aged 87.

Many sources stress that Gala was Salvador’s business manager and advertiser. She told him what to do and managed to get a lot of money that both liked very much.

Several quotes about lying.

We all know about Nobel prizes. What Alfred Nobel thought about lying? What other people thought about it? Please read this old post.

PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

Lying is the greatest of all sins.

Alfred Nobel

The essence of lying is in deception, not in words.

John Ruskin

Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living, and truth loving..

James E. Faust

There are two ways of lying. One, not telling the truth and the other, making up statistics..

Josefina Vazquez Mota

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Quotes about education

Several days ago I saw on TV that a student attacked a teacher.

I saw many times that students of our great universities can’t answer very simple questions.

Often I noticed that professors of our universities and leaders of our country have never learned good manners.

I know that some Americans are joining extremists.

What is going on?

Do we have a huge problem in education?

If yes, who is responsible for it?

Below are some quotes about education.

Do you think that they help to answer my questions?

Please let me know your opinions.

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The function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. Intelligence plus character – that is the goal of true education.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.

Nelson Mandela

My mother said I must always be intolerant of ignorance but understanding of illiteracy. That some people, unable to go to school, were more educated and more intelligent than college professors.

Maya Angelou

Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught.

Oscar Wilde

A man who has never gone to school may steal from a freight car; but if he has a university education, he may steal the whole railroad.

Theodore Roosevelt

Quotes about intelligence

There are posts in many blogs that everyone must read again and again.

It would be good if WordPress allowed bloggers to reblog their posts SEVERAL times!

I have about 700 posts on this blog. It is impractical to place links to them on pages.

Some important posts I already reblogged.

Today I want to introduce to you “Quotes about intelligence”.

Please click HERE to read them.  I hope that you’ll find them interesting.

SO WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT IT?   by  JF

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT IT? by JF

 

Several quotes about intelligence.

I think it is a proper time to remind my followers and guests what they possibly forgot. Let’s grow in right directions!

PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

An intelligent person is never afraid or ashamed to find errors in his understanding of things.

Bryant H. McGill

The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.

Albert Einstein

Action is the real measure of intelligence.

Napoleon Hill

There are no great limits to growth because there are no limits of human intelligence, imagination, and wonder.

Ronald Reagan

An intellectual is a man who takes more words than necessary to tell more than he knows.

Dwight D. Eisenhower

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A story about my first short story.

There are many aspiring young writers all over the world. I reblog this post for them. Learn, write and never give up!

PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

After three very difficult years in US I worked as an accountant in the publishing house Grosset and Dunlap (by that time I graduated in accounting from Queens College). After working many years in the USSR in research and management positions I found my job very easy and dull, but we needed it badly for living.

My old friend recommended me to start writing to make life more interesting. The idea was very tempting.

In the Soviet Union I published three textbooks and many scientific papers but I never wrote a short story. So at the ripe age of 44 I decided to try it. I wrote a story in Russian about our first experience in the high school of overrunning Americans.

I rewrote this story in English for this blog. You can find it HERE.

I am a very humble person (not everybody believes it) but I liked my…

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Life is the best motivator!

I think that majority of my followers did not read this post.
During our 40 years in America we often heard: “I want it and I want it now!” My responses are: “What did you do to get it?” and “Go for it!”

PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

There are many good motivational blogs in the WordPress blogosphere. They are well written and many of them contain beautiful uplifting photos and wise quotes of famous people.

However, I believe that life is the best motivator.

Let me share with you our experience.

My wife and I came in the USA in 1975 with two children. My wife did not know English at all. I believed that I knew English as in the USSR I translated many scientific papers and was able to communicate with foreigners in English. However, my first days in New York were terrible. I could not understand people and people could not understand me.

What did we do?

I found a job as a cutter in a tie factory. I worked 8 hours daily and spent 4 hours to go to work and back. There were 4-5 hours for sleep. All remaining hours I read books by…

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We build our worlds!

This morning I found a post with a photo that I liked very much.

You can see the post below.

IT IS GOOD THERE WHERE WE ARE NOT.

The post is properly categorized and tagged. There is Absence and Emptiness in the photo. It is definitely black-and-white. It is fine art. It is easy to see mystery there too. There is also beauty there.

However, I can’t agree with the title of the post.

I believe that from early childhood we must start building our own worlds.

We must understand ourselves, choose our priorities, take risks, work hard and build our own personal wonderful worlds.

We are born to enjoy life!

It is our major task to create happiness where we are!

 

 

 

 

 

Several quotes about promises.

“Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once.”  ~Norman Vincent Peale

“A promise made is a debt unpaid.” 

~Robert Service

“An acre of performance is worth a whole world of promise.”  ~William Dean Howells

“Losers make promises they often break. Winners make commitments they always keep.”  ~Denis Waitley

Artist and sculptor Bruno Torfs.

Bruno Torfs’ life is amazing. He traveled a lot, created many beautiful paintings and then drastically changed his direction.

You can read about Bruno and see his Art and Sculpture Garden HERE.

And you can see both his sculptures and his paintings HERE.

However, life is unpredictable. In 2009 Bruno Torfs and his family were in terrible danger.

They survived but their home and his gallery were completely destroyed.

You can read about it and to see that Bruno did not surrender HERE.

He restored his home and the Garden. The Garden is open to visitors again!

Several quotes about intelligence.

Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

An intelligent person is never afraid or ashamed to find errors in his understanding of things.

Bryant H. McGill

The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.

Albert Einstein

Action is the real measure of intelligence.

Napoleon Hill

There are no great limits to growth because there are no limits of human intelligence, imagination, and wonder.

Ronald Reagan

An intellectual is a man who takes more words than necessary to tell more than he knows.

Dwight D. Eisenhower

Know yourself and be happy!

It is time to reblog this old post. I want to add a quote I found today: “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
Maria Robinson

Robert W.Service.

Yesterday I received an email from my friend. It said that he translated Robert Service’s poem “My Madonna” into Russian and asked what I thought about the translation. I looked at the original and the translation and answered that translation was good but required more work to become excellent.

I have to confess that before yesterday I did not know the poem and that I liked it.

For those of you, who don’t know or forgot the poem here it is:

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My Madonna – by Robert W. Service

I haled me a woman from the street,
Shameless, but, oh, so fair!
I bade her sit in the model’s seat
And I painted her sitting there.

I hid all trace of her heart unclean;
I painted a babe at her breast;
I painted her as she might have been
If the Worst had been the Best.

She laughed at my picture and went away.
Then came, with a knowing nod,
A connoisseur, and I heard him say;
“‘Tis Mary, the Mother of God.”

So I painted a halo round her hair,
And I sold her and took my fee,
And she hangs in the church of Saint Hillaire,
Where you and all may see.

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I also have to confess that I did not remember reading anything else written by Robert W.Service and I did not know anything about him. However, we live in a fairy tale era when we can get necessary information almost immediately.

Surely, I went to Google and found a big article about Robert W.Service on Wikipedia. I highly recommend you to read this article HERE.

I loved reading this well-written informative article about a wonderful creative man who had a very interesting life, met with many famous people, lived in many countries, wrote many poems and novels. 

It was especially interesting for me to read the following:

“He also visited the USSR in the 1930s and later wrote a satirical “Ballad of Lenin’s Tomb“.[20] For this reason his poetry has never been translated into Russian in the USSR and he was never mentioned in Soviet encyclopedias.[21]

Service’s second trip to the Soviet Union “was interrupted by news of the Hitler-Stalin pact. Service fled across PolandLatviaEstonia and the Baltic to Stockholm. He wintered in Nice with his family, then fled France for Canada.” Not long after, the Nazis invaded France, and “arrived at his home in Lancieux … looking specifically for the poet who had mocked Hitler in newspaper verse.”[22]

These two paragraphs show clearly what kind of person Robert W.Service was.

I already started exploring Robert W.Service’s writings. Hope you’ll do the same.

A story about my first short story.

After three very difficult years in US I worked as an accountant in the publishing house Grosset and Dunlap (by that time I graduated in accounting from Queens College). After working many years in the USSR in research and management positions I found my job very easy and dull, but we needed it badly for living.

My old friend recommended me to start writing to make life more interesting. The idea was very tempting.

In the Soviet Union I published three textbooks and many scientific papers but I never wrote a short story. So at the ripe age of 44 I decided to try it. I wrote a story in Russian about our first experience in the high school of overrunning Americans.

I rewrote this story in English for this blog. You can find it HERE.

I am a very humble person (not everybody believes it) but I liked my story very much. Without delay I sent it to the most popular in the world (outside of the USSR) Russian language newspaper Novoe Russkoe Slovo (The New Russian Word).

Less than a week passed and I received a letter from the desk of the editor-in-chief (I don’t want to mention his name) that he read the story and liked it very much. He added that the story will be in the next Monday’s paper.

I was very glad that my start in writing was successful and told several friends that my story will be in the paper soon.

On Monday morning I bought the paper but…the story was not in it. So I called the paper to find out why it was not published. The answer surprised me very much. They told me that the story rejected. They also told me that the person who sent me the letter was not now with the paper and that he was crazy. I was so shocked that I did not even ask how this person was able to get my story and how he knew my address.

It took me about 30 minutes to recover. Then I thought that if a crazy person who for many years was a good writer, journalist and editor liked my story it definitely meant that the story was very good!

From that time I wrote many short stories and articles on different topics and all of them were published.

HAPPY PUPPY DOG by Andrew Sclafani

HAPPY PUPPY DOG                                                                         by Andrew Sclafani

Life is the best motivator!

There are many good motivational blogs in the WordPress blogosphere. They are well written and many of them contain beautiful uplifting photos and wise quotes of famous people.

However, I believe that life is the best motivator.

Let me share with you our experience.

My wife and I came in the USA in 1975 with two children. My wife did not know English at all. I believed that I knew English as in the USSR I translated many scientific papers and was able to communicate with foreigners in English. However, my first days in New York were terrible. I could not understand people and people could not understand me.

What did we do?

I found a job as a cutter in a tie factory. I worked 8 hours daily and spent 4 hours to go to work and back. There were 4-5 hours for sleep. All remaining hours I read books by Irving Shaw, The New York Times and watched news on TV. In six months my English improved drastically. Then I was able to find a better job.

During those six months my wife attended English classes and then she found a job as a clerk.

Our jobs were not interesting for us (my wife was a designer of the textile machinery in the USSR and I was a scientist) and our salaries were very low.

We had to learn new occupations. After work I went to Queens College and in two years got a BS in accounting. Then I got a job as an accountant in a publishing company..

My wife took a course of designing pipes for nuclear power stations. After graduation she found a very good job as a technician.

Our life improved drastically. We were happy to earn enough money for living and have more time for loving our children, for our friends, for enjoying life.

Our happy life did not last long. In three years almost at the same time we lost our jobs.

Then a new difficult and exciting phase of our life started.

Life is the best motivator!

LIFE IS LIKE A PIANO

LIFE IS LIKE A PIANO